very eloquently stated by Zach Wahls
pinky, are you pondering what i'm pondering? 
wuh, it's a lotta verbal diarrhea, but she can link to this site instead of typing it all over again.
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
2010-12-12
ceremony rituals initations oaths traditions
the more i ponder, the more i realize.... ceremony, traditions, initiations, rituals, oaths.... all those things people use to 'enter' a marriage, political office, religion, club, organization..... things that are strictly human creations.... are the biggest problem of humanity. it is where the majority of our social problems originate.
the need to belong has produced our division.
do i need a piece of paper from my government to know i am in a relationship? do i need the blessing of a church leader to know i will remain with my partner for life? no.... society needs those 'things' to try and define my life.
i am not saying these are not needed for society, i am saying when too much importance is placed, when people start believing that the ritual is more important than the commitment [think about how much some spend on planning weddings and how little is spent on planning the life together, or how much effort and money is spent to keep the 'undesirables' from being recognized by our government as a legal couple] --- therein lies the problem.
ceremony, traditions, initiations, rituals, oaths --- these are created to make a person feel important, vital, needed.... that somehow, you are special to have been allowed to enter this group, to be part of the inner sanctum.
1] you are not special....then again,
2] if you need these to feel special? to be part of the group? you are special... in a sadly pathetic existence.
think carefully next time you feel the need to enter an organization...
what are you entering?
what is your reason for joining?
what is the purpose of the initiations?
what is needed to make you part of the group?
if your answer to any of those questions is NOT "to make this existence better for the future" then you should reconsider:
WHY do i feel the need to be part of this group?
2009-09-07
how to train a hubby, ugh, puppy
http://www.petstyle.com/dog/training_article.aspx
follow-up to 11 secrets
does anyone recall the title of an old sandra dee film about newlyweds? well i found it , When a Man Answers little sandra was having trouble adjusting to the fact that the "boyfriend/fiance" , who obeyed every wish as though it were a command, had turned into a "husband", who seemed tone deaf to her tone.
her wise mother gave her a little book, that when followed, would have her partner eating out of her hand once again as a dutiful partner should.
two points stuck in my young mind the first time i saw this training film:
1--positively reward the 'good' behavior you wish to see repeated.
many times all it takes is a scratch behind the ear, or a sweet innocent pat on the head.
2-- when 'bad' behavior occurs--immediately scold offender JUST ONCE for use of the bad behavior; and then completely ignore offender for a short time. [if the offender is ignored for too long, he will seek attention from another trainer]
REPEAT AFTER ME: only scold ONCE, NAGGING IS NOT AN OPTION
you want the trainee to know that when this type of behavior occurs, he will not receive your love and affection.
--the book was "How to Train Your New Puppy"
I have had one husband and many dogs during my 47 years of life.no matter how wonderful and cute they are to begin with, all must be handled with TLC and consistent, proper handling to ensure a lifetime of well-behaved, domestic bliss.
the dogs have always been so much easier to housebreak.
hubby dear, at the tender age of 55, is STILL a work in progress.
follow-up to 11 secrets
does anyone recall the title of an old sandra dee film about newlyweds? well i found it , When a Man Answers little sandra was having trouble adjusting to the fact that the "boyfriend/fiance" , who obeyed every wish as though it were a command, had turned into a "husband", who seemed tone deaf to her tone.
her wise mother gave her a little book, that when followed, would have her partner eating out of her hand once again as a dutiful partner should.
two points stuck in my young mind the first time i saw this training film:
1--positively reward the 'good' behavior you wish to see repeated.
many times all it takes is a scratch behind the ear, or a sweet innocent pat on the head.
2-- when 'bad' behavior occurs--immediately scold offender JUST ONCE for use of the bad behavior; and then completely ignore offender for a short time. [if the offender is ignored for too long, he will seek attention from another trainer]
REPEAT AFTER ME: only scold ONCE, NAGGING IS NOT AN OPTION
you want the trainee to know that when this type of behavior occurs, he will not receive your love and affection.
--the book was "How to Train Your New Puppy"
I have had one husband and many dogs during my 47 years of life.no matter how wonderful and cute they are to begin with, all must be handled with TLC and consistent, proper handling to ensure a lifetime of well-behaved, domestic bliss.
the dogs have always been so much easier to housebreak.
hubby dear, at the tender age of 55, is STILL a work in progress.
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